By Margaret Kohut, MSW Master Addiction Counselor (Ret.)
This morning I was listening to one of my favorite CDs “Under Cover” by Ozzy Osbourne. My ear caught the lyrics of a song called “Good Times;” originally done by another artist and for many well-known reasons, really must have mattered to Ozzy, given his 40-year history and struggle with alcohol and other drug addictions.
The lyrics that struck me were,
“When I was drinking, I should have been thinking. When I was fighting, I should have done the right thing.”
Again, I was reminded of another set of lyrics, these from Ozzy’s “Gets Me Through” CD. In a short song dedicated to his oldest daughter, Aimee, he wrote,
“Should have been your father, things just made it harder; I’m so sorry if I made you cry. I could have been wrong, you know. I should have been strong, you know.”
That is the entire song; a message of apology to his daughter for being absent from her early life because of his ceaseless search for good times that, without drugs, weren’t simply good enough for him.
Stop Drinking and Rescue Your Life
Have you ever felt that you are missing the true good times of your life because you have a (mistaken) belief that in order to have fun socially, you have to be intoxicated? Is there someone whose welfare you have neglected because of this search for an alcohol-induced high? If so, it is not too late to change this if you stop drinking.
The first step is to ask yourself some questions about the good times you have missed:
- When you met your now-beloved significant other, were you drunk?
- How many Christmastimes have you no memory of because you were drunk?
- Where were you when your first child was born, were you drunk?
- Did you recently celebrate a job promotion or school graduation by drinking heavily with friends?
- How much do you recall of your last holiday, the wonderful sights, sounds, smells. Were you often drinking heavily?
- Have you recently seen a photo of yourself in a social situation that you do not remember?
- When was the last social situation you recall where you weren’t drunk?
These are just a few of the good times you may have missed because of your erroneous belief that alcohol and happy social times must be paired together. Having been an Ozzy fan since his Black Sabbath days, I believe him to be a bright, introspective man who would change so many parts of his life if only he could. A couple of years ago, I heard Joe Walsh, guitarist for the Eagles and solo artist, say that he and Ozzy once did a concert together; he only knows this show even happened because he saw the poster advertisements. What a grand time that could have been, yet neither artist remembers it because they were in drug-induced blackouts.
Fun Without Alcohol Abuse
All over the world, winter festivals and feasts are rapidly approaching, along with their office parties, school vacations and family get-togethers. Will you miss these good times trying to add to what is already fun by needlessly trying to augment them with alcohol abuse? I remember as alcohol-free social times, the hilarious Christmas dinner when my Uncle Marvin dropped the salad in his lap, and the holiday reunion when my elderly Grandmum accidently switched gift tags and gave my six-foot-six male cousin a new baby’s outfit. No alcohol or other drugs, just laugh aloud funnies that I will never forget. Fifty years, later, they are still funny!
How “good” your good times are is completely up to you. Just understand that when you mix alcohol with boisterous fun, everything can turn in seconds into an all-out fistfight and/or tongue-lashing that will haunt you the rest of your life.
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