A lot of people I have noticed, have a problem mostly drinking at home. They may drink moderately or even not at all when out with other people but it is at home that they secretly drink either by themselves or with their partner.
From a company director drinking a bottle of wine with his wife every evening after work to a freelance worker who finished her work day with a glass of wine before starting her evening.
The point is that the drinking at home has essentially become a habit. Something familiar you can rely upon to give you some structure and certainty in your day. Especially if there is uncertainty, stress or boredom in the rest of the day. At least you have one ‘friend’ to rely on.
Why do you want to change?
If you are reading this article, I am guessing you are thinking of making some changes to your life with drinking. It could be that your health and issues such as your weight or blood pressure etc are worrying you. Or you are wasting your evenings or feel stuck. Or there may be other reasons e.g. to do with children and setting a bad example and so on.
When you can really feel that you have had enough of drinking too much and want to enjoy some of the benefits of stopping drinking at home or at least taking control of your alcohol intake, then you can start to make changes.
There are a few things you can do here. Project forward five years into the future. If you keep the same behaviour with alcohol that you have been doing in the last five years, what would it mean for your health, your body and life quality, your bank balance and also your friendships and relationships with your family? Would you be proud of that?
Also, can you visualise some of the current disgust and unhappiness you are feeling? If you can start to recall several things and then visualise them one after the other, you can often create enough pain to really motivate you.
Making The Change
Which then gets us to making changes. One major problem is that it can seem too overwhelming to suddenly go from years of regular drinking to tee-total. This can be too big of a step. So all you need to do is to make gradual changes.
Work out a goal – and long-term. Always be thinking long-term not how can I quickly and suddenly no longer be drinking. Rather how can I make sure I change my behaviour long-term?
What can you do today to make just one change? It could be in writing a diary of your last month with drinking and calculating how much you drank, when and with whom. It could be starting to have one less glass of wine or in adding in a glass of water between drinks.
One important thing is environment. It could be a short-term thing in terms of getting out of the house and joining friends for a jog in the park or a long-term thing such as moving to a new home and neighbourhood. The key is getting started. Bit by bit, you can start to make changes with your drinking at home.
The Give Up Alcohol Course
Please download the Give Up Alcohol Course to help you make changes with your drinking once and for all as this has some specific tools and approaches to help you change your drinking from the comfort of your own home without you needing to go to an AA group or in-patient alcohol treatment facility.